Do you ask, “Why am I sad?”
Sadness is a mindset equal to the force of grief, mourning, and sorrow that extends long term. Sadness is a disadvantage as if you are the trustee of a ten million dollar bank account but you cannot withdraw funds because your lawyer controls the account. Sadness is loss of a beloved possession that was never known to you. Sadness is powerlessness that leads to degrading actions of theft, ignorance, and neglect.
Where does sadness originate from?
Sadness is a mindset that originates from one source. This source is a secondary person or secondary group of people that desire to steal from you. It is a person of relevance, significance, and burden.
Sadness originates from a failed expectation that leads to blame then fear. Sadness is your boss. Sadness is your wife that doesn’t come home to you at the end of the day. Sadness is your husband who eats the meal you cooked with love but never activates a look of affection towards your eyes. Sadness is your same sex lover that dies but no one even knows this person of value exists because you haven’t come out.
Sadness is linked to fear. Fear is a belief in loss, whether it will happen or not. Fear is a belief that something of value in your life can be removed, deleted, or exhaled. Fear is the experience of existing in an inflatable raft in the ocean without with a fresh water producing source, food, emergency beacon, or map.
Fear must be honored as a major contributor to the mindsets of loss, doubt, isolation, regret, survival, and even greed. Fear pushes other thoughts to the forefront of the mind, such denial, neglect, punishment, shame, and disobedience.
Fear starts from aggression. Perhaps a boss has told you, “You’re only as good as your last month’s sales,” signifying that you are one step away from losing your hard earned job. As a sales person who desires to keep his or her job, you push away ethics and aggressively force a sale in order to keep your position in the company that activates fear as a tool of oppressing your mind.
Aggression comes in many forms. Aggression can be irritation for not getting your way. Aggression is belligerence, antagonism, audacity, and even hostility. From a positive spin, aggression is assertiveness, boldness, determination, and even confidence. Anyway you play the game of aggression, no one wins. Aggression is a zero-sum game. Everyone is a loser.
How do you advance yourself beyond the sadness, fear, and aggression? Break the hooks between you and the original person who offended you. Break the chain of offense. It might require an apology. It might require forgiveness and release. Forgiveness is difficult in a world of cruelty, so I prefer transmutation.
Transmute all offending connections to people who have labeled you as inferior. Let go of the past in the best way possible. See yourself as valuable and as a person of great worth. Above all, love yourself.